0:00:06.049,0:00:13.049 A person's status about their HIV antibodies really is found simply by a blood test. The 0:00:16.240,0:00:23.240 problem is that what someone says and what they actually do can be quite different. Someone 0:00:24.529,0:00:30.759 who's very interested in having sex with a new partner that they just met is unfortunately 0:00:30.759,0:00:37.759 more likely to lie and say, "Oh yeah I'm HIV negative; I just had the test last week." 0:00:38.350,0:00:45.350 Well, the partner-to-be, hopefully, will say, you know, let's back off on this whole situation 0:00:47.000,0:00:54.000 for a while. The person may say they're very interested in having sex with this new friend 0:00:55.760,0:00:59.699 but they really should maybe go down to the public health department and get those free 0:00:59.699,0:01:05.860 tests or some other place and get their tests and then find out for sure and then still 0:01:05.860,0:01:12.860 use condoms until they're sure that their new sex partner is likely to be, or will be, 0:01:15.590,0:01:22.220 monogamous with them. In other words, I tell people that after their sexual interest is 0:01:22.220,0:01:28.220 started but before the actual sex happens, they should talk freely about their sexual 0:01:28.220,0:01:33.550 partnerships in their pasts, their risks, and be willing to answer questions. I mean, 0:01:33.550,0:01:39.670 it's intimate to have sex; it should be no less intimate in the talking. It certainly 0:01:39.670,0:01:46.410 could happen that way. And then to go get the tests because, and then insist on condoms, 0:01:46.410,0:01:53.410 until one is willing to bet their life, and then when they're ready to bet their life 0:01:54.380,0:02:01.380 on the monogamous relationship, then do no condoms. And so the problem is very difficult 0:02:03.760,0:02:09.739 to see how all that could happen in a very short time frame. It really can't. So people, 0:02:09.739,0:02:16.080 if nothing else, insist on condoms even if they don't want to talk about HIV risks, even 0:02:16.080,0:02:20.640 if they don't want to go down and get tests with their partner. I think those are things 0:02:20.640,0:02:25.110 that this day and age that they should do if they have any chance at all but if nothing 0:02:25.110,0:02:29.030 else then use a condom. Use it properly.